We all remember a time when we struggled with working up the nerve to take a risk. Sometimes we end up launching ourselves forward outside of our comfort zones and other times we throw ourselves back into the regret zone because we couldn’t work up the confidence to take the action toward our desired goal. Confidence in definition is “belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities.” It’s also being true to who you are and being proud of it. Confidence is a state of mind you learn to control and develop over time.

Confidence is something highly valued in our society and we want to help you get some! Think about it, what if your tech guy was insecure about working with technology? Or the plumber hesitated in deciding how to fix a broken pipe spewing water all over your house? Or the surgeon fumbled around inside of your body trying to figure out what’s what?! Confidence doesn’t just impact your relationship to yourself, it impacts your relationship to the world and people around you. Below are just five simple things you can do which will transform your self-esteem and build your confidence.

1. Have good posture

Always make sure you stand and sit up straight. Adjusting your body posture can help you develop more confidence. The way you sit and stand, whether upright or hunched over, influences chemicals in your brain which impacts your thought processes. Don’t make yourself slouch and feel small; hold your head up, pull your shoulders back and make yourself feel big and strong. Standing and sitting up tall won’t just make you appear confident, but will make you FEEL confident.

2. Take pride in your appearance

Have good hygiene, exercise, and wear clothes that properly fit. This doesn’t mean you have to dress up in a suit and tie or a dress and heels every day. Wear clothing you feel most comfortable in and which also make you feel good about yourself. For instance, I wear gym clothes 98% of the time. I’m a personal trainer and when I wear my workout gear I feel my strongest and most confident. Exercising doesn’t just help you look your best on the outside, but it makes you feel your best on the inside as well. You become healthier and stronger which ultimately boosts your self-esteem. Having good hygiene should be self explanatory. You’ll look and smell nicer, feel clean and fresh and become more approachable. Bottom line, when you look good, you feel good!

3. Good impressions

Smiling, greeting others in passing, making eye contact and speaking slower are all great ways to improve your impact on others and build your confidence. Smiling and greeting others with a simple “Hello” or “How are you doing?” isn’t just a polite gesture, but it also helps make people feel more comfortable around you. Having eye contact while in conversation with someone shows that you’re not only paying attention but have confidence in what you are saying. Direct eye contact is one of the most powerful tools in human interactions. When you speak, try doing it slower and clearer. People tend to speak faster when they’re nervous or feel what they have to say isn’t worth listening to. When you talk clearly and slowly, it shows a sense of calmness, authority and confidence.

4. Think and Act Positive

Be mindful of your “self-talk” or the way you talk and think about yourself. Learn to replace negative thoughts and emotions with positive ones. Recognize and highlight your strengths and achievements while working on things you wish to improve. The utmost important thing to remember is to believe in yourself! Your mind is the most powerful tool and your belief system allows you to become anyone you want to be. Your life thrives off of your thoughts. If you believe you can do something then you can. It’s literally that simple. “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”-Helen Keller. You need to not only think positive but put those positive thoughts into action. You are what you do, not just what you say you’ll do.

5. Plan and Prepare

Whether it’s for a test, interview, presentation or life experiences, plan and prepare. You always feel more confident the more knowledgeable and prepared you are. Studying before a test, practicing questions for an interview, reading up on things you’re passionate about are all ample ways to develop confidence. The more you learn and gain insight, the more your self confidence rises. I’m not saying that you can always plan for things in your life because life is full of surprises. However, the more prepared you are for things that you know are coming, the better you get at handling situations and experiences.


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